danceboy

Sorry, hon, but a co-worker who doesn't know poly (which of course is potentially a false assumption if everyone is closeted) who sees you flirting when your wife isn't looking is more likely to think that you're a sly lech (and then be either disdainful or approving depending on his own take on such things) than to figure out that your wife's OK with this and that therefore you have the sort of "deviant lifestyle" for which one ought to get fired. Freaking messed up culture. Oh hey, but flirt-dancing with R sounds nice. I'd say try not to judge her too much by one boy choice. Some of us who like to think of ourselves as smart, sexy, sincere (and other positive s- words) have chosen partners whose names we'd now rather not shout too loud.